Is Oversharing the Problem or Hegemonic Narcissism?

I’ve been examining several of the social concepts that have been used over the past 10-20 years. Vulnerability, social norms, gaslighting, and more. But one concept has been contradictory at best and outright victim-blaming at worst. The term is oversharing.

Oversharing is the concept of sharing too much of your life with people too soon or at all.

Brenè Brown started the craze around being more vulnerable. I am on board with this because of two reasons. You don’t waste time with folks and you get to see what they are made of. Asking deep questions, sharing deep thoughts, and debating our current existence.

Sadly we live in a hegemony that shuns transparency because it is based on deception. Lies about our origins, lies about our history, and lies about ourselves. The fear of manipulation and being used seems to be constant.

It takes Emotional Intelligence to be vulnerable but it takes a baseline of deception to hinder it. So why is oversharing shunned? I think it’s because most of us feel disempowered. Every single client who I speak to suffers from trauma because it is built into the DNA of the current hegemony.

I surveyed on Linkedin and asked if someone asked you for help what would stop you from helping? Out of the three choices: